I am in a happy place in life right now. Everything in my life is surely not perfect, but I am happy. As I sat down to write about this topic I realised that I am lucky indeed to be living the life I am right now. I am a woman in 2017 who is living life on her own terms. It may not be a bed of roses, but this is my happy place and I revel in it. It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 24 other bloggers are celebrating #9daysofwomanhood throughout Navratri. I thank Harneet Khurana for setting the stage for me. I loved her blog Sublime Messages on the prompt for today which is Being a Woman in India in 2017.
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I don’t read the newspapers or watch the news. I am not scared or fed up of reading only the negative news out there in the world. My reason for doing so is actually a very simple one. My son began chewing on newspapers once he started crawling. It was this fear of bleached, white paper and toxic paint printed on it which made me summon the newspaper wallah and tell him we are done. I now live in a cocoon of sorts and rely purely on social media for my news, updates, and information. The biggest advantage of this is that I can scroll by if something doesn’t interest me or is disturbing.
But this gives me a unique chance to look at my own life and highlight what it means to me to be a woman in India in 2017.
With this view in mind, I was awake till 4 am last night thinking about how to translate what I feel into words and sadly the free flow of words was missing. Some of it was purely from the exhaustion of running behind a toddler all day and from work demands. But most of it from an innate sense that my life is no longer about MY LIFE. Becoming a mother changed something very fundamental inside me and that was the realization that my life was not my own. Everything I did was not for my own self. My skills and talents are utilized for the good of my child, my family, my extended family, my blog readers, my social media followers, the businesses I support and most importantly the WOMEN whose life I want to touch & support.
Just as suddenly as Motherhood dawned upon me, so did multiple mom friends and the various subgroups that existed within those. Moms who delivered in the same month as I did, moms who live in the same area as I do, moms who blog, moms who cook, moms who baby wear, moms who cloth diaper. I woke up one fine day to see that I had hundreds of mom friends. But all were united in one cause to love, support and help each other along the way. I wrote about one such group of people who do just that in my post about A Facebook group.
I have learned from life’s experiences that it is women who pull each other down. However becoming a mother also taught me that great things happen when women support each other. Being a part of several mom support groups I myself have found solace and support in hard or challenging times. My problems have been minor but I have also witnessed women with serious issues such as domestic abuse, lack of financial security and such hard times, find solutions to their woes and emerge to live life on their own terms. If this is not the power of women then what is. I would like to believe that Being a woman in India in 2017, is not about getting one up on each other but lending support and helping each other.
In my course of mommying babyT I have also had the immense joy of being associated with women run companies which make baby products. Superbottoms cloth diapers and Soul who make baby carriers are two such companies which were dreamt of by women, set up, and given life to.
Their businesses arose from their role as a mother when they realised that there was a need in the market for a product which would allow mothers to be better caregivers to their little children while at the same time not compromise on their individual dreams and aspirations. Not only are these two companies run by women but they go a long way to provide opportunities to other moms like them and even underprivileged women who are in need of livelihood.
Chinmayie Bhat of Soul says, “Soul came into being because I believed babywearing empowers us. Running a staff composed entirely of working mothers, I am learning every day how babywearing helps fulfil dreams indirectly too.
Soul empowers the mothers who use them and the mothers who make them!”
While India and the world are from the utopian idea of equality between the sexes and a world where the majority of women truly live life on their own terms, I think a change is on the anvil. A positive environment where women love, support and help each other grow is one which is on the brink of great success. A woman can do anything if she puts her mind to it and that shall be evident soon enough.
Hop on over to PrettyMumma Says to see Surbhi Mahobia’s perspective on being a woman in India in 2017.
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